The politics of comments
I was originally just going to post this as a comment to my post yesterday, but I thought it deserved it's own entry, in part because it pissed me off so much. So here it is.
Surly Girl brought up a point in the comments from yesterday's post that turned out to be particularly on-point today.
There's a certain blog I've been visiting lately--a good blog, mind you- where I read some posts and left some comments.
In looking at old posts, I saw that some had a large number of comments. However, this turned out to be somewhat deceiving, because typically, all or most of the comments were simply banter back and forth between the blogger and another blog bud. For example, one post had 45 comments, and all but one consisted solely of quips back and forth between D (the blogger) and her pal S. Another one had over 60, and as I recall, once again all but about 3 or 4 were from D and S-- the other commenters were ignored.
Today, I stopped by for a visit and D had posted a thank you for all the people who visit and comment. She apologized for the fact that she no longer had the time or energy to really visit or comment to other blogs, but she deeply appreciated the feedback she got from her visitors.
This is the comment I left. It may very well be the last I ever send her way.
I recently came upon your blog, and really like it. Coincidentally, however, this post came on the heels of a piece I wrote the other day concerning the "polltics" of commenting.
Although I can certainly understand how one might not have the energy or time to comment to/visit other blogs, I have noticed something interesting in the short time I've been reading (and commenting) to your posts.
You and S seem to have an IM style banter going on. When he makes a little quip, you unerringly respond. Sometimes these have the effect, to my mind, of almost trivializing an otherwise serious post.
Conversely, I notice that others--not just myself--who take the time to compose a detailed, thought out reply are sometimes simply ignored.
Perhaps I am too sensitive, but if I feel I am being excluded from a commenter clique, I will hesitate long and hard before visiting or commenting again.
Just my observation, for what it's worth.
I didn't really want to make waves, because I anticipate that D and/or S will be defensive about this, if they bother to ackowlege it at all. I was not trying to be gratuitously nasty, but it seemed like the most blatant case of comment-cliqueing I've encountered thus far.
As always, I welcome your comments (lol)